Yes! You Deserve Happiness

I spent the first 20 years of my life living a lie. 

Because I always thought happiness had to be earned…

That you had to spend all of your time and energy making other people happy before you were allowed to be happy yourself. 

I thought being good… obedient… not getting into trouble… not causing problems… sitting in the quiet corner… getting good grades… and focusing on making everyone else happy was the way to live a good life. 

I thought doing all that would make me happy. 

It would give me what I deserved. 

But I was wrong. 

It was all a lie. 

Because what I actually got was low self-esteem. 

What I got was a life of not loving myself. 

A life of staying so far away from the spotlight that it was barely even visible to me. 

And as I grew a little older and saw everyone around me calling themselves “adults”… I didn’t know what to think, or what to do. I couldn’t figure out how the hell people even lived their own lives, let alone thrived in them. 

I’d always been taught that life was a test. 

And if you aced that test, your next life would be filled with all the things that you loved. 

But what I never realized was, if I believed that…

It meant this life was going to be filled with struggles. 

With hardships. 

With things that made it so you could never fully enjoy it. 

I didn’t want to live like that.

I believed deep down that the greatest power in the universe was love…

And that a loving force guided and created us all. 

I believed that whatever this force was that loved us unconditionally, it would never create a life for us as a test filled with struggle and misery. 

Sure, there will always be hard times… 

There will always be some struggle and pain…

But life was meant to be full of joy too. 

More joy than pain. 

And as Albert Einstein once said: 

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“The most important decision we make is whether we believe we live in a friendly or hostile universe.”

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For me, the real truth was (and is) that we live in a friendly, LOVING universe. And all the happiness and joy we could ever wish for is just there, waiting for us to claim it. 

So I took a chance. 

I walked away from all the stories I’d been told while I was growing up. 

And even though it seemed selfish at the time, I realized it’s what we all have to do at some point if we hope to live our own lives. 

We have to walk away from the things we were taught growing up…

We have to follow our own unique path… 

Explore our own passions…

Find out what we love, and what will bring us happiness. 

Maybe that’s where you are right now… 

Maybe you’re realizing (just like I did) that you’re ready to make a change. You’re ready to blaze your own trail. Ready to find your happiness again. 

And whether you know it or not right now… 

You DESERVE happiness. 

You DESERVE joy. 

You DESERVE to get everything you’ve ever wanted. 

Because life is NOT meant to be a struggle. It’s not meant to be just an endless list of “to-do’s” and “not-do’s”. It’s not meant to be an endless stream of tasks that leave you feeling numb, like you’re just a machine checking off boxes after each task is complete. 

It’s meant to be so much more. 

And the choice is yours. 

You can choose struggle, like most people do, and live your life by the grades you earned, the money you earn, and the promotion you might earn. 

OR…

You can live your life knowing that you’re worthy just because you exist. (I know that’s hard to believe right now - I struggled with it too when I first heard it lol)… but it’s true. 

You did absolutely NOTHING to exist, yet here you are. 

There’s no way you could have earned that right. 

And in that same way, you don’t have to earn happiness. It’s just there. All you have to do is choose to claim it. 

I know that’s easier said than done…. 

But here are a few ways you can stop the struggle and start saying YES to your happiness instead: 

Step 1

Suspend your beliefs

I know you might believe certain things right now (like I used to). Things like “happiness is earned” or “you can only be happy if you make other people happy” and so on. You might believe you don’t deserve to be happy. Maybe you’ve made mistakes in the past or you’ve been around toxic people who’ve made you believe that about yourself. The truth is, that’s all behind you. All I want you to do right now is to suspend those beliefs. Lock them in a box somewhere. Choose to believe right now that happiness is just a choice. 

Step 2

Use a gratitude journal

Gratitude is one of the most powerful forces in the universe. And it’s one of the most beneficial emotions you can feel. That’s why gratitude journals are one of the most popular things right now. Because people are starting to notice the power they have in making us feel happier and improving our wellbeing. 

If journaling isn’t your thing, then try making an album in your phone for photos of things you’re grateful for and add to it each day. Make it snapshots of your gratitude. 

Or try sitting for a few minutes every day, closing your eyes and envisioning the things you feel grateful for. 

It doesn’t have to be much, but focusing on the good things in life, the things that make you grateful, can do wonders for your happiness long term.

Step 3

Stay young

If you find yourself judging everything as good or bad, then that’s your “adult self” talking. For a change, try letting your inner-child have some time in the limelight. Don’t judge and label things. Instead, just be playful and present in the moment. 

I know it’s more of a mindset and less concrete than a journal or practicing meditation… but you’ll be surprised how much better your life can get if you just focus on your playfulness and child-like curiosity. 

There you have it, three steps to help you start saying YES to happiness. 

It’s not always easy to do…

But even small changes will have a positive effect.

If you’d like help saying YES to life’s joy and finding true happiness in your life,

We’ll talk about where you are now, what your struggles are, and see how we can help you to free your truth and claim the happiness and joy you deserve.